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While a mother can be defined as a creator, a nurturer, a protector—at the center of each mother is an individual who is attempting to manage her own fears, desires, and responsibilities in different and sometimes unexpected ways. In Know the Mother, author Desiree Cooper explores the complex archetype of the mother in all of her incarnations. In a collage of meditative stories, women—both black and white—find themselves wedged between their own yearnings and their roles as daughters, sisters, grandmothers, and wives.
In this heart-wrenching collection, Cooper reveals that gender and race are often unanticipated interlopers in family life. An anxious mother reflects on her prenatal fantasies of suicide while waiting for her daughter to come home late one night. A lawyer miscarries during a conference call and must proceed as though nothing has happened. On a rare night out with her husband, a new mother tries convincing herself that everything is still the same. A politician’s wife’s thoughts turn to slavery as she contemplates her own escape: "Even Harriet Tubman had realized that freedom wasn’t worth the price of abandoning her family, so she’d come back home. She’d risked it all for love." With her lyrical and carefully crafted prose, Cooper’s stories provide truths without sermon and invite empathy without sentimentality.
Know the Mother explores the intersection of race and gender in vignettes that pull you in and then are gone in an instant. Readers of short fiction will appreciate this deeply felt collection.
Desiree Cooper's Know the Mother is a collection of thirty vignettes that examine how migrations changed the fabric of families and particularly motherhood. Young women had to make their own way – to forge for themselves the demarcation between home and the outside world, what was expected of them, and what goals they had to live up to. Motherhood was no longer cast in the direct shadow of grandmothers, and mothers-in-law, but rather shaped by the social and cultural biases of racism and sexism through which they navigated, seemingly alone. If motherhood was the icing on the cake, she held together what was under that icing. Should the mother remain unchanged, a fixer or a giver commanded merely by her role?
– Colleen J. McElroy, author of Blood Memory
Each one of these short, short stories is as full of excitement, triumphs, and losses as a movie or novel but as easy to swallow and as satisfying as bonbons. A perfect bedtime accompaniment, Know the Mother is a great gift for friends. Cooper shines a brilliant light on the everyday, on the little things as real, and as unexpected, as the opening of our hearts.
– Toi Derricotte, author of The Undertaker's Daughter and recipient of a Guggenheim and two National Endowment for the Arts fellowships. She is also a chancellor of the Academy of American poets, and the co-founder of Cave Canem, a home for black poetry
The stories within the book explore gender and race and many other topics that have touched her life in some way. And not all of them are heartwarming, but rather, the truth.
– Josh Hakala, Michigan Public Radio -- Stateside with Cynthia Canty
The flash fiction genre fits Cooper’s neat, abbreviated, aesthetic, and feels perfect for mothers who don’t have time for more than a morsel at each sitting, but who want to feel satisfied at the end of each selection. Each piece may hone in on a different topic—gender bias, racism, classicism—but the leitmotif remains womanhood, motherhood, family life.
– Kelly Fordon, Literary Mama
This collection of powerful short stories displays motherhood's hard truths without judgement.
– Anthonia Akitunde, Mater Mea
The stories in Know the Mother are like jewels—glittering, finely wrought and worthy of careful appraisal. Here is fiction that examines not only the everyday messiness of living but the painful miracle of birth and the beautiful mystery of death with equal insight. Cooper's elegant, wise, and energetic collection is about what it means to be a woman, a mother, a sister, a wife, a child, and most of all, human.
– Angela Flournoy, author of The Turner House
The stories in Desiree Cooper’s lyrical debut collection, Know the Mother, are razor-edged, quick-footed, powerful. Cooper’s language cuts and stuns, lulls and disturbs.
– Christine Rice, Hypertext
Know the Mother will haunt you as you applaud that fact that Cooper’s women have been given a voice, a dignity previously unseen.
– Lara Lillibridge, Mom Egg Review
Desiree Cooper’s Know the Mother is grim, but a necessary antidote to the prevailing simplistic view of motherhood. Cooper is a masterful and descriptive writer. When she describes a "big, fat baby" named Tessie in the story "To The Bone," the reader can almost touch the babe’s fat, brown, dimpled knees. The richness of her prose allows Cooper to capture life’s small moments and render a more fulsome picture of maternity. But the writer truly excels at illustrating emotion and empathy. The reader comes to know the mother by feeling what the mother feels--anxiety, despair, loneliness, irritation, love.
– Tamara Winfrey Harris, Bitch Media
Taken together, Know the Mother is a welcome antidote to the fetishization of motherhood that tends to reach its
obscenely sugar-coated peak in the month of May. Because let’s face it: chocolate and flowers are a wholly inadequate
acknowledgment of the woman you are supposed to be honoring. Possibly the best gift you could give your mother
for Mother’s Day would be to read Desiree Cooper’s book yourself.
– Nicki Leone, Bloom
A compelling and exceptionally well-crafted anthology comprised of impressively written, reader compelling,
insightfully thoughtful and thought-provoking short stories, Know the Mother showcases author Desiree Cooper as a
master of this literary form.
– Margaret Lane, Midwest Book Review
Slightly longer stories, buoyed by deeper characterization and multiple scenes, are often more successful than the snapshot ones, but her sharp insight into motherhood and race makes Cooper an author to watch.
– Rebecca Foster, Foreword Reviews
This collection make clear that to know in a mothering sense, to live the medium of the mothering body, is to experience worlds so amplified that even their briefest glimpsed stories can both terrify and beautifully overwhelm.
– Denise Dooley, Fiction Writers Review
Know the Mother is profoundly respectful of all the parents who want to control their own narrative, who understand that they do not cease being themselves just because they belong to another in some way.
– Stacie Williams, The Rumpus
Desiree Cooper keeps catching fire.
– Aaron Robertson, Metro Times -- 2016 Summer Reading List
It’s tempting to compare the book to a box of assorted, bitter chocolates, quick bites of lyrical, truth-telling about motherhood moments, so different from the typical "momoir" fare about minivans, playdates, boredom, and wine that was all the rage in the 2000s.
– Pooja Makhijani, Raising Mothers
Desiree Cooper's Know the Mother is one of the most singularly focused short story collections I've encountered that wasn't really a novel-in-stories, or a collection of stories about a specific character or entity.
– Dan Wickett, Emerging Writers Network
Every once in a while you read a book and it blows you away. KNOW THE MOTHER was that for me.
– Marianne Williamson, internationally acclaimed spiritual teacher and author of A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of a Course in Miracles
In her flash fictions, Cooper gives just enough detail in each sliver of intersecting lives to convey powerful messages about society at large. . . . Alternating between moments of levity and darkness, the vignettes in Know the Mother reveal that the only thing lurking in the shadows is some aspect of humanity...either our own demons or someone else's, acting as a mirror for some part of us we have yet to recognize.
– Audrey T. Williams, eleven eleven
This book is a welcome reprieve from the typical whitebread 'momoir.' If those books are chardonnay, Know the Mother is bourbon.
– Deesha Philyaw, The Undefeated
2017 Michigan Notable Book Award - Result: 1 of 20 selected annually